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Many of us as moms are of the impression that should we decide to take on the role of motherhood full-time, we will ultimately lose ourselves and who we are in the process.
Well, I am here to tell you, that’s not the case. You don’t lose who you are when trying to be present with your kids. Rather, finding the balance between motherhood and your purpose is key.
You want to find what that balance is and try to get to that position so that both you and your family can thrive. You don’t want dysfunction to take that role. You want both to be in balance with who you are and what your purpose is in this world.
Are you currently on the fence about how to be a mom and also how to pursue your goals? Please feel free to add to my list, or ask your questions or concerns below. I would be happy to help you!
Find your purpose
Maybe you’re aware of what your purpose in life is, or maybe you are like me several years ago when I was clueless as to what I was placed on this earth to do. When I spent a season to understand myself and what it was that I wanted in my life for myself and also for my family, it was then that I decided to create the environment that I wanted to see, in order to be my best self.
My best self also helps me to thrive as a wife and a mother in unison. Finding my soul’s purpose actually helped me to also find myself in motherhood. They both balanced each other out perfectly. So now, I have become one with my purpose and my responsibilities as a mother.
So whatever that is for you, try to build your life along those lines. Try to create exactly what you envisioned for your family. Trust me on this one. You will never be at peace if both are in conflict for your attention anyway. There is balance in both motherhood and your purpose.
Whoever thought that life should be lived in “chaos” is so wrong. Chaos is actually an indicator that we are not living our best lives. We are completely “out of order” and cannot function effectively in a chaotic lifestyle.
Many of us are begging for peace to be present in our lives and especially in our homes. However, we are not proactive enough to allow that to happen. We settle with chaos, thinking that it’s normal because society tells us it’s normal. You and I both know that, it’s NOT NORMAL.
Me being a “sucky”, “miserable” mom is NOT NORMAL. Our children do not need to be exposed to dysfunction. We must as mothers, try to create the balance that we need so that both our desires and our desires for our family’s well-being, can be the norm.
Balance with life and motherhood is key!
I like to journal. That’s my way of expressing myself and allowing my thoughts to be seen and known. So I write what it is I want to see in my own life that will give me peace about my life and my desires. Seeing that also helps me to process what it is exactly that will give me that.
Most times, we are aware of it, however, because of maybe financial reasons or maybe a relationship that may not understand our needs as a mother, we settle. It’s also best however to speak with your partner about your feelings and then try to see how best to create an environment that you both know will work best for your family.
It may be changes like, your spouse asking for a raise, changing his job for a higher salary, or anything that seems logical to make the necessary changes. It could also mean a different career choice, or even maximizing the income that you already have to generate residual income.
There is always something that can be done to make the necessary changes that you want to see in your life.
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Be yourself! You can’t hide who you are under the disguise of motherhood. As a mother, you were not just called to be a mother, but to also be who you are. You still have to be content with yourself. You still have to be happy with yourself. You want to be true to who you are, otherwise, you become lost in motherhood.
Motherhood was never a way for you to “sacrifice” everything and just be silent, while knowingly on the other side of that, you’re miserable. Motherhood actually was created to allow you to grow and develop even more into who you are.
So don’t “hide” yourself in motherhood. Be your authentic self, and it will make room for you to grow. Remember, a “happy” mom is so much better for her children and family anyway.
Be willing to fight
I’m not telling you to get into any arguments with your partner in any way. No, I’m not! I am just saying that you want to fight for the changes that you want to see in your life. You don’t want to just quit because things are going to “magically” turn themselves around without you even lifting a finger. You also don’t want to settle for anything that’s not your best self.
Be ok with pushing yourself to achieve certain goals that you want to see come to pass, rather than just sitting on the sidelines. That would mean things like learning about investing, learning new ideas, networking with others, and just going “headstrong” toward your goals.
Yes, your fight is not a physical fight, but rather a fight for a better, more balanced life for you and your family.
Don’t settle for less than the best
Sometimes we settle for less than our best selves because we don’t have the energy or the encouragement that we may need, to step out and do more for ourselves as a mom. We sometimes tend to settle, then live in misery and resentment.
We all know what we want from our lives. We do! We are human beings that were created to have those emotions. Those emotions are what drive us to seek out more for our lives. Therefore we want to go after ONLY the best. This is because the BEST life is where we will function fully in motherhood and purpose.
I know, many of us are called to different careers and roles at any given time. Some are called to be doctors, teachers, lawyers, and more. But every area of the career field has evolved. There are so many things that you can still do in any of these fields if you desire to have balance in your life. The goal in whatever career you find yourself in is to create the change that you want to see for yourself and your family and to be at peace with that choice.
If there is conflict or turmoil in the midst, then it’s not going to be an ideal situation. At the end of the day, you want to create balance.
Balance keeps you thriving in your best self, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
Why do I say that you need to be content? Being content helps us to keep our vision for our families separate from everyone else’s vision. When we’re content with our lives and the choices that we make, we will not want to be like anybody else.
Our families and our role in motherhood and purpose are TOTALLY unique. Nobody was made to have the same exact life. We are ALL going to be different.
Yes, social media does not make it any better for any of us, when we see others with their families, living in a different space. I see them too. The traveling families! I love that. I also know that it’s not my purpose for myself and my family. So I don’t desire to have what they have, because we’re all different. We’re also different in our livelihood and lifestyle.
So be at peace with your life and your journey. Never feel the need to compare it with anybody else’s life or journey. Stay true to yourself, and your desires for your family, and be at peace with that choice.
be at peace
Peace is the ultimate goal for anyone in life. Balance helps you to get to that level of peace. Be reminded, it’s not overnight peace. It takes work to get to that level of peace with oneself and our motherhood journey and purpose.
Be consistent and intentional about getting to that level of balance that will create the peace you want to see in your life. Chip away at it, as if it’s your only source of energy.
Try to work at achieving your optimal best, which is a peaceful life. What does that look like? It’s a life lived in balance and purpose.
Overall I do hope that you found some encouragement in this blog post to go after the life that you want to see in your life with motherhood and purpose.
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- Transitioning From A Working Mom To A Stay At Home Mom
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